‘Stop Selling the Narrative that Women Have to Suffer Before They Find Love’

Toke Makinwa has taken to her Instagram to school sexists who have a penchant for prescribing how women must lead their lives.

The recent drama started after American rapper Snoop Dogg shared a the photo of rapper Gucci Mane and his wife Keyshia Ka’oir, concurring to the caption which mocked women who refuse to put up with cheating, violent men.

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A post shared by snoopdogg (@snoopdogg) on Oct 14, 2019 at 11:59am PDT

And Toke Makinwa called BS on that post.

She said:

“Talk Tuesday!!!!!! I am deeply tired of this narrative though, this post pissed me off soooo much, why do we like to make women look like huge jokes? why is this the way to happiness? Why must you sell the “I suffer pass” mentality? This promotes low self esteem. I know for the most part of my life I believed that for love to be real, it has to hurt, I believed there has to be pain and real humiliation before you find peace and that mentality is BS. That mentality made me stay in crazy situations and do the most for the wrong reasons. Let’s stop pls. This is trash. Pls show me examples of men who stayed with a cheating woman, drug addict, jail bird, publicity with other men etc. show me a man who knew what he signed up for and even after she slept with his brothers and friends held her down till she became refined. If we can’t pick 10 men pls stop raising your daughters to hold down situations that might eventually break them, stop selling the narrative that women have to suffer before they find love. This is ruining lives for real and it should stop.”

See her full post below:

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Talk Tuesday!!!!!! I am deeply tired of this narrative though, this post pissed me off soooo much, why do we like to make women look like huge jokes? why is this the way to happiness? Why must you sell the “I suffer pass” mentality? This promotes low self esteem. I know for the most part of my life I believed that for love to be real, it has to hurt, I believed there has to be pain and real humiliation before you find peace and that mentality is BS. That mentality made me stay in crazy situations and do the most for the wrong reasons. Let’s stop pls. This is trash. Pls show me examples of men who stayed with a cheating woman, drug addict, jail bird, publicity with other men etc. show me a man who knew what he signed up for and even after she slept with his brothers and friends held her down till she became refined. If we can’t pick 10 men pls stop raising your daughters to hold down situations that might eventually break them, stop selling the narrative that women have to suffer before they find love. This is ruining lives for real and it should stop.

A post shared by Toke Makinwa (@tokemakinwa) on Oct 15, 2019 at 3:21am PDT